Regrets of the dying
One woman (in this case, its name is not important) for many years worked in a hospice. Her duty - relieved condition dying patients. Thus, she literally spent with them the last days and hours.
From my observations it has made a rating of basic regrets people have approached to the edge of life. Thus, the 5 most common regrets of the dying:
1. I regret that I did not have the courage to live a life that was right for me, not the life that I have come to expect from other
This is the most common regret among men. When people realize that their life is almost over, they can easily look back and see what their dreams were not realized. Most people hardly tried to fulfill even half of their dreams and had to die knowing that this was only because of the choices they did or did not do.
It is important to try to implement at least some of your basic desires on his life's journey. From the moment when you lose your health, it is already too late to do something. Health bring the freedom that very few realize, until they lose it.
2. I'm sorry that I worked so hard
This feeling was every male patient that I cared. They missed their youth and in their relationships. Some women also expressed a regret. But since most of them were of the older generation, they generally do not engage in earning funds for the family. All the men with whom I have worked, deeply regret that spent most of his life in the monotonous work for earning a living. By simplifying your lifestyle you can reduce the requirement of income that you think you need. Creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities.
3. I'm sorry that I did not have the courage to express my feelings
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to maintain certain relationships with others. As a result, they agreed to a mediocre existence and never became such what they would like to see yourself. The occurrence of many diseases have been linked with feel a sense of bitterness and resentment.
We can not control the reactions of others. Although initially people may respond to the changes that you make in a relationship is not desirable for you, in the end, it raises the relationship to a new more healthy level. The best thing one way or another to eliminate unhealthy relationship from your life.
4. I'm sorry that I did not support the relationship with her friends
Often, these people do not even realize all benefits of keeping in touch with old friends until their death does not remain for several weeks, and was not always have the opportunity to find them. Many were so immersed in their own lives, letting their friendship for many years to pass by them. There were many deep regrets about the fact that their friendship was not given so much time and effort that this friendship deserved. All miss their friends when they die. Any person conducting an active way of life, tend to underestimate the importance of friendship. But when you are standing on the verge of death, the material side of life lose their meaning. Of course, people want their financial affairs were in the greatest possible manner. But no money and did not retain the status ultimately its value. They want to bring some benefit to those whom they love. But usually they are too sick and tired to somehow cope with this task.
5. I'm sorry that I was not allowed / allowed themselves to be happier
This kind of regret was surprisingly common. Many people do not fully realize that their happiness is a matter of choice. They were subordinated to the established habits and ideas. They were held captive "comfort" traditional way of life. Due to the fear of change they pretend in front of others and to ourselves that we were happy with their lives.