12 laws of yoga that will help to find harmony in life
They are simple and formulated yoga guru Ar Santema as 12 natural laws. They can be great to use in the fight against the majority of manipulations.
We publish the knowledge that will help you understand yourself better and to change the attitude of others.
1. You have to - you and do
Every time in the conversation sounded the word "must" when it comes to debt or obligation, it is worth asking the question "Who needs it?". Manipulators like to conceal the fact that the desired need in the first place to them. For example, the phrase parents, "You've got to find a job," free from manipulation, would sound like this: "I need you to stop sitting on my neck and went to work." In the meantime, the young man did not have to go to work, it is convenient to sit on the neck.
2. Do not promise. If you promised - Perform
Remember how often under the pressure of other people you have given rash promises. The manipulator will specifically push you make rash promises, and then exploit your guilt. Just do not promise, but if we promised - follow. Then the next time think twice before you take on extra responsibilities.
3. Do not ask - do not go
It often happens that we are guided by good intentions, doing worse. We just did not ask for help. Then our efforts are taken for granted. Even worse, when, instead of one person asks another. Helping in this situation, we are violating the law and even "You have to - you and do it." If it seems obvious to you that the person needs help, take the opportunity to ask him if he was ready to accept it is up to you. Suddenly the girl who got stuck in the heel of the drain grating rigged specifically to meet there so cute kid. And you, beech, and have spoiled everything. You could also at least ask.
4. At the request of not withhold
Any request involves gratitude. Manipulators tend to make empty promises or forget about the services. Perform the request, but do not hesitate to ask for a quid pro quo. Perhaps even in advance.
5. Live present (not the past and future)
One of the most important laws, from my point of view. He makes it easy to destroy comparing manipulation with you in the past. We never want to be worse than itself, it is often used by other people. For example, keying "you was not like before," easily broken "used to be before." Sweet promises of the future, promises half the killed bear's skin immediately terminated after the question "So it will be then, and now exactly do you propose?".
6. Do not sink
How often do we become attached to a person, object or activity? How this attachment can be strong without putting our composure under threat? Each your answer to this question. Just remember: with these emotional ties you to easily blackmail. Do not let your loved ones to become household terrorists, do not sink.
7. Do not set a goal (the goal is to serve as a beacon)
For me, it was the strange law. For me it is important to be highly motivated. To understand his wisdom took me some time. That's why I prefer it with the addition of the wording about the lighthouse. If the goal is set incorrectly, then once it comes reaching devastation. Most likely, this goal imposed on you from the outside. So always ask yourself or the people, inspiring you on the accomplishments, the question, "What next?". Take for example, is still one of the favorite phrases of all parents: "You need to get a higher education." And then what? Being a realtor, sales consultant or start your business and you can not have a higher education.
8. Do not bother
The most brilliant of all the laws. They can and must be used in respect of themselves, and in relation to other people. The phrase "Do not disturb, please" can work wonders. The main thing - to say it before you begin to experience irritation.
9. There is no bad weather
Law with the greatest philosophical potential. He learns to use every opportunity, including their mistakes. It differently formulated in other systems. For example, in NLP, he sounds like this: "There are no injuries, there is only feedback." So many of the surrounding will be happy to remind you of your failures or complain about how bad it around. With this approach easily influence your mood. In such cases, remember: there is no good or bad, there is only your attitude.
10. Do not judge, do not criticize
Sometimes it is very hard to hold back and do not criticize other people. The only criticism is necessary to nobody - neither you nor others. Keep this in mind. When you once again to be condemned, listen, but do not criticize in return. Here are my questions for the holder of such judges: "And what of it?", "How do you propose to change this situation?", "Why do you think that only your assessment of the situation is correct?". And the best just do not take the wrong in the head, and heavy - in his hands.
11. Do not transmit information without making it his (experience, skills, abilities)
If you do not check the information that spread further, you turn into a gossip. You say stop believing. It gladly take advantage of your enemies. Communicating with others, specify exactly how they checked the information they tell you. Most of it generally does not check, becoming a victim of undercover games or political propaganda.
12. Everywhere and always ask permission to
etiquette of the area law. Its use is not only insure you against extra effort, but you will create the image of a polite person. Just ask from the inner confidence, otherwise it will look like eternal doubter eccentric. By the way, this law, I can not help using, offering to ask whether a person needed help. Similarly, related and other laws with each other, thereby creating a mental shield against manipulation. Use it with a smile, as well as the performance of asanas.